A Couple of Minutes of Kindness

I have been trying to think about what I wanted to write about all day. Over the past couple of weeks several topics have come across my mind such as domestic violence after hearing about the young woman”s husband who posted a picture of her on Facebook after he killed her. Or about not giving up when obstacles get in your way due to my own latest personal battle. But within the last 30 minutes the subject of “A Couple of Minutes of Kindness” came my way after finding out about a co-worker who died today. I only worked with her for about a week before she got sick and went into the hospital. What was remarkable was in that short period of time she brought so much joy to our department and was full of wisdom. When she went into the hospital, for what we thought would be a short amount of time, I reached out and called her on a daily basis. She would make statements about how she loved hearing from me in those brief couple of minutes and how it brought her joy. At one point I was told that I was spending too much time calling her when there was other things I needed to be doing. I refused to accept that and did not listen. I felt that if I was in the hospital I would appreciate someone checking on me even if I had known them for a short time. I refuse to be too busy for a couple of minute of kindness. We got word last week that she was not coming back to the facility, but that did not deter me from reaching out. I called and sent a text. I received a text back that she was going to call me back, but never heard from her. When I got the call this evening my heart became heavy. She was a remarkable woman who in a short time touched my life with her tenacity and laughter. You know God uses you in ways that you don’t always realize. He used me to bring a couple of minutes of light into her day not knowing that He was preparing to bring her home with Him. I am happy that I listened and continued to make contact when I was told that I was too busy. You never know what small act maybe one of the last small acts a person receives.

Cancer stole another angel today. 1 in 13 people will develop lung cancer in the United States with 10-15% being non-smokers. Two-thirds of these are women who have never smoked. There are many causes and risk factors associated with lung cancer. There are many treatments out there if it is caught early. Please see your doctor if you sense something is wrong. If you are not happy with the first doctor’s diagnosis, get a second opinion. We have to stop being scared of doctors and of being diagnosed. We have to take responsibility for our health.

Please join me in praying for the family and friends of my co-worker. Tomorrow find some small act of kindness to do in honor of her memory. May you Rest In Peace Delores Holmes!

Please make a donation in support of my efforts with Team In Training and help advance the research for cures. You can access my fundraiser page at http://pages.teamintraining.org/sun/StPeteHf13/drshanwalks. Furthermore, I would like to invite family and friends to join me in St. Petersburg that day after the race to celebrate a survivor, my mother Shirley Dorsey-Davis. Feel free to contact me for more details.

The Beginning of the End

I sit here reflecting and preparing for the beginning of the end to occur tomorrow. Now this may sound like the start of a doom post, but actually it is the beginning of a celebration. Tomorrow starts the last round of maintenance chemotherapy for my mother. I wonder what it will feel like walking into the doctor’s office knowing that the end is near. I am full of so many emotions especially because the other person who started this journey with us is not here in person to end it. Crystal came into our lives so unexpectedly and we never would have known just how much we would need her later. I have been missing her so much over the last couple of weeks and things just do not feel the same going into this final phase. I know she will probably be video conferencing in throughout, but I have to admit I wish she was here in person. This month and hopefully the rest of this year will mark the ending of several phases of our lives. It is an end and yet a beginning. No longer will every six months be marked by chemotherapy. No longer will our lives be marked by pushing through a recovery period. No longer will we have to make sure not to schedule things around chemotherapy month. Tomorrow is the beginning of the end of life without chemotherapy!  

Please make a donation in support of my efforts with Team In Training and help advance the research for cures. You can access my fundraiser page at http://pages.teamintraining.org/sun/StPeteHf13/drshanwalks. Furthermore, I would like to invite family and friends to join me in St. Petersburg that day after the race to celebrate a survivor, my mother Shirley Dorsey-Davis. Feel free to contact me for more details.